虛性和諧友誼中的自我轉化歷程

Abstract

本研究從轉化學習的觀點，探討處於「人際和諧與衝突動態模式」虛性和諧中的友誼，以瞭解華人於虛性和諧中的自我轉化歷程及其結果與影響。本研究採深度訪談，受訪者年齡介於20-30歲（男性6位，女性8位），共15筆有效資料。質性分析結果顯示，自我轉化歷程有三個階段：關係停滯、自我轉化、關係再定位。另外，本研究也從兩方面瞭解到個體自我轉化前後的改變：關係變質、後續人際影響。即雙方關係變質後，個體始意識到關係中存在的不和，面對初次衝突感到不知所措，關係進入停滯期，期間各自冷靜與沉澱。當個體開始反思、對關係進行再評估，於兩者間來回反覆，過程中亦會與朋友對話（自我轉化）。無論最後的人際結果為何，這可能只是「暫時的」（關係再定位）。另外，本研究以個體「後續人際影響」瞭解轉化如何影響後續交友行為及心態。綜上所述，自我轉化歷程與前後變化依序是：初始的關係變質、關係停滯階段、自我轉化階段、關係再定位、後續人際影響。研究結果顯示，無論關係的改變如何，於過程中雙方皆有所成長。轉化，確實讓關係有了改變的可能，而自我轉化亦給予個體成長蛻變的契機。

Previous studies focused on the harmonization process of interpersonal relationship. Is it always a good idea to get back into the relationship? This study aimed to explore the process of self-transformation in superficial harmony friendship with adopting “the dynamic model of interpersonal harmony and conflict” and the perspective of “transformative learning”, which shows more interpersonal possibilities. Fourteen participants (20-30 years；6 males, 8 females) were interviewed to gather data on their self-transformation experiences in the superficial harmony friendship. The results showed that the core of self-transformation was to enhance one’s self-concern, which affected interaction(s) with others in the future. Once individual realized the discord in the relationship, it is the initial point of transformation. In self-transformation stage, individual wandered back and forth repeatedly between reflective thinking and re-assessment. After making the decision, he/she felt relieved, no matter what choice was made. Findings suggested that self-transformation is an opportunity for self-growth. Furthermore, the results after self-transformation present more possibilities in relationship, which cannot be discovered from the viewpoint of harmonization process.