成長於離婚單親家庭之已婚女性的婚姻經驗

Abstract

本研究以社會學習理論的正面意義來探討離婚循環，經由網路徵求研究對象，共訪談六位來自離婚單親家庭的已婚女性，她們同樣在十八歲前經歷了父母離婚，也都在成年後和自己所選擇的對象結婚，且婚齡超過一年。從她們的成長過程和婚姻經驗，可以看到父母離婚和自身婚姻這兩段關係所交織出的圖像。首先，她們以父母離婚的經驗為借鏡，而茁壯為獨立的個體，但在婚後需要重新學習如何與先生共同擬定家庭決策的課題。其次，出於父母的經驗，她們對「離婚」有清楚的認知，不輕率脫口而出，但易對突發的危機存在不安。最後，離婚單親的背景在籌備婚事與婚宴的期間，成為她們較大的壓力來源。基於此研究發現，本研究於篇末針對正式資源、多元家庭及離婚歷程提出反省和思考，以期未來有助於離婚與家庭的相關議題。

The marriage experience of married women who grew up in divorced single- parent families is often described as vicious cycle of divorce. The study intends to explore the positive side of their marriage experience from social learning perspective. Six women whose parents were divorced before 18 years old were sampled through the Internet and each was in-depth interviewed. They were all married over one year and some are over 4 years. Four of them have kids already and one of them is going to have kid soon. The results indicated that their marriage experience was intricately interwoven with their parents’ marriage experience. First, they expressed how resilient experience they learn from growing up from their parental divorce. However, their self-independence personality developed from living in single-parent families became a salient struggle when they needed to make mutual decisions with their marriage partners. Second, they always kept vigilant when experience marriage difficulties, But they would never speak out the word of “divorce”during mutual fights, due to a warning of their experiencing parents’ unsuccessful marriage. Last but not least, their back ground of growing up in single-parent familiesdid cause much pressure when meeting cultural rituals of wedding preparation and father presence or not in the wedding banquet.To conclude, implications about braking up divorce cycles, promoting diverse families, and divorce courses are discussed at the end of this study.